Tips and Tidbits
Hurt people hurt people. Every time someone hurts you, it is because they are in pain and want you to know it. Sometimes they may not realize that they are in pain. At other times they may be seeking revenge. Regardless, your best response is to seek to find out what their pain is about.
The problem is never the problem. Every argument in the history of mankind has been about the very same thing --- who is right! That is NOT the problem. The problem is that they do not trust the other person. We almost never argue about the real problem because it often is too scary. At other times, we just do not know what the real problem is.
Your spouse is in this marriage to knock your rough edges off and to shape you in the way God desires you to grow. Every time you get a rough edge knocked off, it hurts.
We always marry someone who has the same basic issue that we have. “They” are not the problem. Another way to say that is we always marry someone just as wounded as we are and usually in the way. |
